Welcome to the February 2021 issue of Service Matters, your answer to the question, “What’s Up in GreySheet?” regarding all the work done for GSA as a whole to carry the message to compulsive eaters who still suffer.
As Valentine's Day approaches, many of us reflect on the nature of love. It is all too easy sometimes to get pulled into the marketing of love presented by advertising and the media. These can include being "completed" by a significant other or general fuzzy feelings towards the people in our lives. In the past, if we felt like we did not measure up, we may have tried to seek comfort from foods not on the GreySheet. This always led us back to powerlessness and unmanageability. We might have attempted to change this by using our own willpower, but we inevitably found ourselves pulled back into the cycle of the phenomenon of craving and the mental obsession that comes with taking the first compulsive bite.
In GreySheet, we learn that love is a verb, and we begin to practice loving actions toward ourselves and others. We stay abstinent, we sponsor, and we are sponsored; we participate in fellowship and outreach; we protect anonymity, and we do service. Our dignity and self-respect are restored. Eventually we learn to not beat ourselves up with our character flaws, and instead to finally accept ourselves as human; to embrace the parts of us that are awesome; and to provide care and understanding to the parts of ourselves that are still growing and changing. We learn that a Higher Power can restore us to sanity and give us the strength to remain abstinent a day at a time, no matter what.
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Question: How has GreySheet Abstinence made you a more loving person?
M: Having worked the steps in AWOLs over the years, I have certainly lost my self-centeredness which definitely makes me a more loving person in all my relationships.
R: Before I entered the GreySheet rooms, I resented everyone who was not suffering from the addiction that was overpowering me. I resented anyone who was still suffering but was so foolish as to think they had a solution that worked. My resentment made me look down on such people. It kept me from truly loving them.
M: GSA abstinence has made me a more loving person in 3 distinct ways:
1. As a result of putting my GS abstinence FIRST in my life, I have learned to love myself. After 4 decades of self-hate, this is nothing short of a miracle!
2. I can love others. Now that I put the oxygen mask on myself FIRST, I have an abundance of love to give to those around me. "It works, it really does!"
3. I even have love for ALL humankind, including those who may have hurt me or those with whom I disagree. Praying and meditating on the St. Francis Prayer has afforded me the opportunity to "seek to understand, rather than be understood." I never felt such incredible outward love for all living beings, as I do since I have had time in GS.
M: "My partner, who I have lived with for years, still asks me if I can have a certain starchy vegetable. Now, after 30 years of abstinence, I don't kill him. I just smile and say, "No." I even do it kindly most of the time. I feel that this is an important way that GS abstinence has made me a more loving person."
H: GS Abstinence has made me a more loving person to myself. I ask God’s help, I put my food on my scale three times a day. Self-care. Self-love. Learning how to feel my feelings and eat my three weighed and measured meals a day NMW, one day at a time.
E: Abstinence requires that I act, every day, many times each day, proving to myself that I really mean it. It has taught me how to tell the truth about who I am, how to show up when I say I will, how to be true to my word, all the very things I was not able to do in the food, that help me love my husband, my sponsor, my sponsees, my neighbors, my family.
A: Weighing and measuring my food has made me more loving as I am learning one day at a time to love myself. As I put my food on my scale, I make my concentration zone into what I am doing, then I can be present and loving to my family.
L: When I was eating, I smiled and tried to help you by telling you what you should do. The longer I stay abstinent, the more I can 1) be honest, 2) be open and vulnerable, 3) realize “it’s not all about ME”, 4) be willing to make amends, 5) listen instead of talk first, 6) be willing to transform and change MYSELF 7) let others take credit, 8) be patient, 9) be willing to step up and make hard decisions even if they aren’t comfortable to me, and 10) accept difficult situations without a “poor me” attitude.
February 2021 - Monthly Board of Trustees
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